Lonely in a crowd

Lately I have heard many people say they feel lonely when they’re in a group of people, even though they might call these people their friends. I fully recognise this feeling and I am starting to wonder why there are so many people who feel this way too. Maybe it catches my attention time and time again because I’ve been actively seeking other HSPs to talk with, or maybe it is a societal development. In any way, I wanted to address this because I think there are many more people out there who feel this way.

About two or three weeks ago I found an instagram page dedicated to HSP. I absolutely love the daily quotes posted on there because I recognize them all! It feels so good to know that there are more people like me out there and that I am not as special as I think I am. If you’re curious you can check out her instagram page Here. A few days ago I also found out that she has an awesome Spotify playlist centered around music HSPs tend to like (I can tell you it is awesome! I really, really like the playlist.) and she also made a website, which you can find Here. The admin really created a sort of safe-space where HSPs are able to connect with each other and find help when there is something they cannot work out themselves.

Ever since I’ve been actively seeking contact with more HSPs I feel like I am more myself and I am more able to listen to myself and my own needs instead of catering someone else’s. I am learning more and more to see HSP as a superpower instead of a burden.

One of the aspects of being HSP is connecting with other people on a deeper level than most people will ever be able to do. This is exactly why most HSP tend to feel lonely in a crowd. Maybe you recognize this. You’re at a party, or just hanging out with friends, and even though there are many people surrounding you, you can’t shake this lonely feeling. This is not something just HSPs experience. There are plenty non-HSP who experience this, as I’ve come to discover. My philosophy about the cause of this is that you like the people you hang out with, but you’re not able to really connect with them. Don’t get me wrong here, there is nothing wrong with this. What I am trying to say here is that perhaps you shouldn’t focus on the quantity of people around you, but the quality. Who of those people really get you? Maybe two…or just one. Those people really connect with you.

I have one best friend. She gets me like nobody does. We might not talk all day, every day. And sometimes we just talk for one minute and that’s that. But I know she is there when I need her and I will always be there for her when she needs me. We don’t see each other as much as I would like, but when I do it is like we never parted. She is the only person who I can really connect with at this moment. The other people I know are my friends as well, but those people are more ‘surface-friends’, if that makes sense. I like them all equally, but I won’t ever be able to talk to them like I would to my best friend. If I’m out with my surface-friends I tend to feel lonely, not matter how many there are. When I am out with my best friend I feel like I have the whole world surrounding me.

I hear more and more people voicing that they feel lonely, even though they have loads of friends. If you feel that way too…then maybe it is time to really feel who you can connect with on that deeper level and recognize you’re not lonely at all, you simply don’t connect with everyone on the same level. Don’t be sad about losing contact with someone after a while, too. People come and people go. Some of them stay with you for a lifetime, but most of them don’t. You learn something from them and then that’s that. Nothing wrong with that.

I hope you learned something today and I really hope I helped some people by writing about this. Don’t forget to check out my Instagram page (here) and my last post (here). If you have any questions or you want to share something, you can always leave a comment down below. See you next time!

Lots of Love,

Lorin

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